(1) Keeping if Real:
One common source of Christmas stress is the pressure to meet unrealistic expectations. Instead of aiming for perfection, acknowledge that imperfections are a natural part of life and a natural part of Christmas. Setting realistic expectations for ourselves (and others) can help alleviate unnecessary stress and create a more positive mindset to get us through this period.
(3) Create Some Breathing Room:
It's essential that we establish boundaries during the festive season, especially if social interactions are a source of stress for us. Communicate your needs to friends and family, and don't be afraid to prioritize self-care over a social invitation that you really don’t want to attend. Whether it's taking some alone time or politely declining invitations, setting boundaries can help us maintain a healthy balance.
(4) Focus on What You Can Control:
The holiday season often comes with an onslaught of external factors that may be beyond our control. We’re talking here about things like the weather, cooking mishaps, forgetting shopping, guests cancelling (or guests turning up without an invitation), health issues, and family conflict. In life plans don’t always turn out – and just because it’s Christmas we can’t expect this to change. Instead of fixating on the things we can't change, focus on what is within our control.
(5) Repeat the Good Stuff:
Consider incorporating traditions into your Christmas that bring you joy and a sense of meaning. This could be as simple as watching your favourite holiday movie each year, volunteering for a cause you care about, or enjoying activities that align with your values. Creating meaningful traditions can help shift our focus from stressors to positive experiences.
(6) Switch off Family Feud
Navigating family conflicts during Christmas can be challenging, but there are ways to foster a more harmonious atmosphere. For example when tensions arise, make a conscious effort to practice active listening. Instead of immediately responding or reacting, take the time to truly understand the other person's perspective. Reflect back what you've heard to ensure you've grasped their feelings and concerns accurately. This not only shows respect for their point of view, but also demonstrates your commitment to open communication. By actively listening, you create an environment where everyone feels heard and understood. This can diffuse tension and pave the way for more productive and respectful conversations.
If you’ve tried this before, and don’t want to fail again – avoidance can be another effective strategy to get you through the day.
(7) Mellow Out:
Incorporating mindfulness and relaxation techniques into our routine can be especially beneficial during the holiday season. Whether it's meditation, deep breathing exercises, or yoga, these practices can help us stay grounded and reduce feelings of anxiety.
(8) Build Your Flexibility:
Christmas rarely goes exactly as planned. Embrace flexibility and be open to adapting to unexpected changes. A flexible mindset can help you navigate uncertainties with resilience and reduce the impact of unexpected stressors. Whatever happens, accept it. If Uncle Clem sneezes over the potato salad, just say “OK”. (Also, I suggest you remove the potato salad from the table.) If no one talks to you at the party, just say “OK” and talk to the Christmas tree. (Others may think you’ve lost it, but you’ll definitely become the centre of attention.) If you’re missing someone you love, just say “OK” and remember the happy times you had with them, and celebrate their memory.
(9) Shaking off Loneliness:
If we’re experiencing loneliness this Christmas, we may be able to use technology for virtual connections. Connecting with others, even if not in person, can help alleviate feelings of isolation and provide a sense of warmth and companionship. If we’re without friends or family, we could join online communities where we can share the holiday spirit through video calls, messages, or social media. Alternatively, what about volunteering to help others who are going through tough times. Giving our time to others can make us feel good, as well as provide new connections in our life.
